Not that I want to freak anyone out by posting this, but once you become a parent, there is always going to be something to worry about. I honestly don't think it goes away; the worries just changes based on the age of your child.
Once you are a parent, you will be so for the rest of your life - so I guess we have to get used to it. Not only is there always something to be stressed about , it’s also hard, MUCH harder than you could EVER imagine, before having your first baby.
I know the internet has not helped parents with this, going online only creates more questions, to which you will continuously find different answers, leaving you even more worried and confused, so now what do you do?
I ran into an old client of mine at the grocery store recently, I met her when her twins were only a few months old and they were not sleeping well. At the time, she had one of the same worries that many of my client's have, "when will I stop worrying about my baby's sleep?." When I saw her she mentioned that her twins were now 8. Her words were " I thought it was hard then, but it was nothing compared to now - now it's really hard".
I'm 18 years in, and I'm still worrying - One of my latest stressor is about kids being in cars with slightly older teens; is this something that would worry you?
The first time I worried about this was 3 years ago. My eldest asked if he could go to 'Fright night' at the PNE, to which I said 'yes', it was then followed up with he was going to get a ride with a friend's brother (who is 19).
This FREAKED ME OUT - to which he did not understand 'Mum, what’s your problem!'
I'm a pretty chilled out parent, but the thought of my baby, being in a car, with a few other teenagers and being driven by a teenager on the highway, is enough to send me over the edge. Far, far over the edge.
I dreaded the day my first born drove in a car full of other kids. The idea him getting into cars with someone who is not me or my husband scared me (it still does and I'm certainly not the world's best driver). I guess it just gives me a sense of control; which is false, as I can only control my car. I now like that my oldest can drive his siblings around but that adds a whole new level of fear-all three of my kids in a car without their parents.
I constantly question whether I am being over protective but at what age do you let go? I don't know the answer or how I will get over it, but I do know that I can't make my anxiety his problem and I do think this is good - food for thought - for other issues that come up, as children get older.
For now, I'm going to keep applying my anti aging cream and hope it removes the worry lines from my face. What are your current parenting anxieties? Are any of your stressors are around sleep or potty? Book a quick fix call. I've got you on this one. Now does anyone have any tips for me on letting go of my desire to parent a soon to be adult?
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